I’m not sure what I hate more: 1) big consumer industries telling me that on the 14th of February I need to show how much I love my wife by spending money on overpriced flowers, cards, candy, and jewelry or 2) recognizing that I don’t do enough of the more important things to show her I love her on the other 364 days of the year.
We have had our share of challenges recently. Many have been related to parenting, but work and health issues have been also part of the mix. It’s during these difficult times that I find myself reflecting on many things, including marriage and commitment.
I rediscovered a song a few weeks ago that has been resonating with me. It’s a 15 year old song written by an artist who is not exactly famous for romantic ballads. However, he writes songs that paint images of life in vivid detail and they often includes pictures of our relationships.
The song is called If I Should Fall Behind by Bruce Springsteen. The song itself is beautiful and his live performance of it, trading verses with the E Street Band, is incredibly moving. I’ve seen it performed live and recently rediscovered live versions on CD and DVD. The recorded performances are as moving as seeing it live.
So, Lee, here’s a sampling of the song and the thoughts I’m holding onto this February 14th:
We swore we’d travel darlin’ side by side
We’d help each other stay in stride
But each lover’s steps fall so differently
But I’ll wait for you
And if I should fall behind
Wait for me
Now everyone dreams of a love lasting and true
But you and I know what this world can do
So let’s make our steps clear that the other may see
And I’ll wait for you
If I should fall behind
Wait for me
Let’s keep moving together and waiting for each other.